If he’s the one with the problem, why do I need counseling? This is the question often asked by spouses/partners after discovering their husband is using pornography or has cheated on them. It is a valid question with a valid answer.
Most spouses have suffered greatly because of their husband’s addictive behavior. They have become angry, critical, are often depressed, indulge in emotional eating, or under-eating, over exercising, and some turn on themselves wondering what they could have done to have kept him interested.
Even for those who know that they are not at fault, there is still the collateral damage of having been lied to, the broken trust, the compensating ways, the attempts at fixing him, judging him, etc. Symbolically he has shot you with an UZI over and over and over. Even if you are able to function, you still have bullets lodged in you emotionally that need to be dealt with. (Doug Weiss AASAT.org). What you are feeling is real, but is it beneficial to you.
Partner recovery therapy is a safe place to work through the various emotions, the emotional shut down, the anger, and the self-sabotaging patterns that often afflict those affected by infidelity and sex addiction. It helps you get back to being you, the wife, friend, or the mom you want your children to remember.
Ashes to Beauty Counseling, 2017